I had someone ask me if I could do a Dance Party for her Daughters Birthday. I initially said no because she planned the party on Sunday. Well, she changed her date and I was available and my husband was not working so I said that I would do it. Two days before the party she had to change the date and time again because of a conflict The only time she could get was when my husband was working. I agonized over the decision of whether or not to do the party because now it meant that I either had to pay a sitter, and make no money on the deal, or bug a friend to let my kids come and play, and I had already been on the fence over the deal because I am really busy with school, kids, and church. While I do not mind finding sitters for my kids on occasion this was not something that I really wanted to do. I knew I would be unhappy filling my time preparing for the party and doing the party. I told the lady I would call her back and let her know what I decided. I did not want to let this girl down on her birthday. So I thought, “Well, I’ll just get it over with!” Wait a minute! I just stopped in my thoughts. "Get it over with." What was this, doing the dishes? No, it wasn’t, it was my life. It struck me so profoundly that I called her back right away and told her that I would not be able to do the party. This is my life and if I keep making choices that I just have to “get over with” then I need to make a different choice. I had the most amazing weekend with my kids and I did not regret my decision one bit. I was not responsible for the girls feelings, she did not need me to have a wonderful birthday, especially if my attitude wasn’t there, and I was able to spend time with my kids and not rush around. It feels good to be confident in my choice and not be unhappy either way, because without this realization I would have been unhappy with either choice because I would have been happy with either choice ;) I know I think too much, both choices matched my values and were good choices.
|Photo by Tenika|
Lessons in Progress:
1.) Timing is everything! I was sitting down tonight laughing with my baby and thinking if I was working right now I’d miss this moment right now.
2.) If I keep making choices that pull me away from what I want, I will never do what I want, I will never find my passion or enjoy it anyway.
3.) There is a season for everything! My service is for my kids right now and later I might have time for a dance party.
4.) Making choices to make others happy will not bring me success or joy. Making choices based on my values and joy will.
5.) Life will be over soon enough...Make the choices for your life that will get you where you want to go, not ones that will be over soon enough.